This web page contains some resources for making funeral arrangements for a loved one. Some people also choose to pre-plan their own funerals so that their wishes are known.
If you have had a death in your family and need to reach someone to make arrangements, please call the church at 919-942-1040. Off hours, please call the rectory at 919-240-4095 or the priest residence at 919-240-4705. Please also contact a local funeral home.
“In the face of death, the Church confidently proclaims that God has created each person for eternal life and that Jesus, the Son of God, by his death and resurrection, has broken the chains of sin and death that bound humanity.” Vatican Council II, Sacrosanctum Concilium, 5.
The principal liturgies in the Order of Christian Funerals are the (1) Vigil for the Deceased, (2) the Funeral Mass or Funeral Liturgy Outside Mass, and (3) the Rite of Committal.
Donations: There is no charge for the funeral mass. Often families ask if they can make a contribution to the church. Since the organist and cantor are paid $100 each, most families assume this cost by writing checks made out directly to those individuals. In our experience families generally make additional gifts to others involved in the funeral (priest, pastoral associate, deacon, funeral reception committee, etc.) in the range of $100.00-$150.00 each. Should you desire to do so, checks should be made out to the individual. Should you desire to give a gift to the church, the check can be made out to St. Thomas More. Again, note that there is no charge to celebrate a funeral liturgy at St. Thomas More. This information is simply provided as we are often asked by families what might be appropriate.
Click here to download the General Norms for the Celebration of Roman Catholic Funerals in the Diocese of Raleigh.